Whether you are the bride or the maid of honor, planning the hen night can almost be as stressful as planning the wedding! There is much to take into consideration including, your budget, the age of your guests, and what the bride wants vs what everyone will enjoy.
If you are the bride then remember that the hen party is a celebration of your happiness so it should be something that you primarily enjoy. However, it is also important to consider the age and preferences of the people invited to your party, for example, if lots of people in your friend group don’t drink then a bar might not be the ideal place. Similarly, if you are the maid of honor or a bridesmaid that has been tasked with planning the party, then make sure the event is something that you know the bride will love, whilst also taking into account the needs of other members of the party so that everyone feels included.
The first step in planning the perfect hen night can be the most important factor leading to what you ultimately decide; the budget. Whether you are financing the party yourself or someone else is paying for it, but you are in charge of the details, it is critical that you do not exceed that budget. Of course, you want everyone to have a night they will never forget, but not at the cost of breaking your own or someone else’s bank. It is not necessary to have a destination holiday or retreat at an expensive spa. There are plenty of great parties you can have on a smaller budget. For example, you could have a gathering at someone’s home or a village hall. Clubbing can be a good option too if everyone pays for their own drinks, perhaps with everyone pitching in for the brides. At the end of the day, if the bride is surrounded by her loved ones, then everyone should have a good time.
Who is Invited?
Another vital factor of planning a hen party is to take into consideration who is invited. The age and relation to certain guests, in particular, can be a large influence on where and how the party is held. For example, if the future mother in law is attending, then perhaps clubbing is not the greatest idea. Similarly, if those with children who would also be in attendance are coming, then anything adventurous or involving alcohol might not work either. If the hen party is to include the future in-laws, older generations, and children, then a meal at a respectable restaurant that sells the bride’s favorite cuisine would work perfectly. On a slightly different note, many forget that the hen party should be made up of the bride’s closest friends and family which could include those of any gender, not just women, so it should be something that anyone regardless of gender would enjoy.
One area of hen party that rarely gets taken into consideration is when it should be held. Too far before the wedding and the celebration can feel premature or can become rushed. Too near to the wedding and the stress and anticipation of the day can overshadow any enjoyment or memories of the hen night. The date must also be one where people are free to attend otherwise the entire planning process will be a waste if nobody can come.
Whilst it is important and amiable for everyone to enjoy themselves, at the end of the day the hen party is a celebration of the bride-to-be’s happiness and the people in her life that have made it so. As such, the party should cater mostly towards the bride’s interests. If the bride is particularly adventurous, then perhaps an aerial adventure park or an extreme water sports experience could bring her joy. Or if her version of paradise is time to herself, then a relaxing spa day might be more her speed. If the members of your hen party have been friends since high school, perhaps you could relive the moments that shaped your friendship in the form of a sleepover, which wouldn’t be complete without embarrassing truth or dare questions.
To summarize, the perfect hen party is one that will be inclusive of the guest’s age, gender, and relations whilst ultimately catering to the bride’s interests and desires, without blowing the budget.